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Mr. President

Kevin and KimThe hiatus is over! This week Kevin interviews a gentlemanly Trump supporter on the street to see if there is anything to be learned from listening (probably not but it’s worth the try). But first, Kevin and Kim cure their election sadness by singing like chickens. Also, Kim is becoming a high-powered business woman while Kevin is becoming a coffee addict. And in this week’s Commuter Corner Kim talks about the hazards of her morning routine

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Kevin and Kim would like to offer a very special thanks to Brendan Bennett for giving an interview in this episode.

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Breaky Break

Kevin and Kim

Dearest listeners, we are back…but the best is yet to come. Kevin and Kim are still working on a super boost to the show but couldn’t stand not recording for so long. We meandered, coughed a ton on air, caught up, told some jokes and got deep in the last 10 minutes talking about the darkness in us all and why society is not in complete chaos. Duterte and the 2nd amendment both make cameos.

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Kevin and KimNo one wants to face the inevitable, so Kevin and Kim do!  This week, Death: Crossing over, morgues, mass graves for the homeless, irrational fear of The End, and death parties.  It’s a fun one! Plus, gin and tonics will make you fatter than you thought, Kevin goes to an adult bookstore (Spoiler: not for books), heaven is full of Russian ASMR artists, and did Kim just say she wrote a suicide space opera? Also, the commuter corner is reawakened to tell us what we should do post-accident and Kevin and Kim’s have a new project, stay tuned!

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The American Dream

Kevin and KimIt’s our 25th episode! To celebrate that milestone (it’s…something) Kevin and Kim talk about that promise we all believe in, even when we don’t: The American Dream. A commentator gives us her take on the Dream, everyone agrees eating dog and boots sucks, and Kevin and Kim care about the homeless (honest). Plus, Kevin is bored af but manages to complain for only 10 minutes. Also, Kim is more Dorothy in the Tornado than Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, but she’s gonna meditate through it so don’t worry.

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The Conventions and #BlackLivesMatter

Kevin and KimThis week Kevin and Kim talk about the Cruz Clown Show at the RNC and the Bernie Boos at the DNC before airing a previously unreleased discussion on #BlackLivesMatter. Plus, a 60 foot long joint is paraded through Philadelphia, the gays get behind Milo for a fashion statement, and Kim needs to seriously be asked about her New World Order on the Ocean thingy. Also, Kevin hasn’t pooped in awhile but he’s in love so that’s okay.


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Kevin and Kim Bury the Hatchet

cropped-kevin-and-kim.pngKevin and Kim are back, and have resolved their kerfuffle. You didn’t even know there was a kerfuffle, did you? They learned many lessons from the Incident of 2016 and they share them with you. Plus, Kim is fighting allergies, or depression, or the plague and, according to Carl Jung, she can’t see the eye crust for the trees. Then, Kevin explains why a charlie horse is as bad as child birth, meets a gentleman caller, and achieves fart freedom.


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Help Kevin Help Taiy

Taiy and KevinClick here for the original post on the GoFundMe page.

On the right is Taiy.  He is a young English teacher in the village of Inburi, Thailand.  We took this photo a year in to our friendship.  It is special to me because it helps me remember that, no matter what, Taiy is always smiling.

Taiy’s parents supported him and his younger brother anyway they could:  Selling soup on the street, fixing motorbikes, making handicrafts.  It wasn’t always enough, but they got by.  More importantly they gave their sons a lesson that would be learned by myself and the countless others who have been lucky enough to come to know them:  No matter the circumstance, there is always a reason to smile.

I met Taiy while working in a neighboring village as an English teacher as well.  It was a difficult time.  A mutual friend had died suddenly, and we came upon each other during her funeral.  I was struck by the joy Taiy was spreading with those around him.  I was struck by his smile, even as tears streamed down his face.

Taiy and I became close.  I learned more about the Thai culture, improved my language, and became more comfortable with myself as a foreigner in his country. More than this, I became comfortable with my own skin.

Taiy showed me that there is an immense joy in this world, if we simply pause for a moment and pay attention.  He never lectured me, never delivered any profound speach.  He simply lives and loves.  He feels the joy and pain of everyone he comes in to contact with.  I watched as tears came easily for him as he bought food for street children in Bangkok.  Likewise his eyes welled up with happiness when I anounced I received a job I had been trying to get for months.

And he did this, consistently tapping in to the needs of everyone and anyone in front of him, with so very little. With the joy he carries everywhere he goes, it was always too easy to forget the poverty he and his family lived in.  And, it was easy to forget the weight he carried when his parents could no longer, and the subsequent responsibilities he took on to care for his disabled brother.

Taiy and Brother

A couple months ago Taiy’s brother became ill.  The few resources Taiy and his parents had went to medical care. It was a brain tumor.  Taiy worked as much as he could to support the new expense.  His spare time was spent by his brother’s bedside and at the temple, making merit and praying for a miracle.

It wasn’t enough.

The community came together for the funeral, as is custom in Inburi province.  But now, though Taiy won’t say it, I know he is struggling.  On top of the grief we all have to struggle through when we lose a loved one, Taiy has to also figure out a way to take care of his parents and himself after the depletion of the very little resources he had.

And I don’t believe this is right.

I believe when we come across someone who is literally changing the world, one person at a time through unconditional love, we must do everything we can to help that person in their time of need.  Taiy has taught me that we can choose every moment of every day to give joy, love, and respect to every person we touch.  I have a long way to go but he has showed me it is possible.

Though money is far from the most important thing in Taiy’s life, I know it can help him.  It could relieve the financial burden he carries for himself and his family right now.  It can give him time to cope.  It can give him time to shine a little more light in to his own darkness, as he has done for so many.

In short, Taiy deserves it.

I do not have much, but I will match dollar-for-dollar every donation made up to $500.  The goal of $3,000 is roughly what Taiy earns in 6 months of work as a teacher in his province.  This would free up the burden of housing costs for his parents, fuel costs, food, travel to see and comfort family, etc for this period of time.

Please, help me help Taiy. Click here to go to the GoFundMe page.

The attached photo was taken by a friend as Taiy held his brother’s hand in the hospital.

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We Never Stop Coming Out

Gay_mourning_flag.svgWhen I was a freshman in college I met a man on campus in our student Pride club.  He was older, an adviser to our group. It was my first time there so he introduced himself.  I had just recently come out to my family and I mentioned that I was so glad it’s “over.”  He said to me, with a very knowing smile, “Sweetie, you never stop coming out.”  It struck me, but I didn’t really know what he meant.

15 years later, I think I do now.

All LGBT people know of our unique challenges when moving to a new community, a new home, or starting a new job.  We know what it’s like to think What will these people think of me?  Will my neighbors notice I’m gay?  What if I mention the date I had last night with this new coworker?  We know the absurdity of these questions, and yet they are there demanding an answer.

We know what it’s like to have that hesitation, to have to make that split-second decision between hiding who we are, and sharing.  At office parties, family gatherings, Christmas celebrations, in line at the damn post office when your phone rings and it’s your boyfriend. We have to decide.

We know the depth and complexities of dating in public as an LGBT person.  We know how it feels to be out on a date, floating up with all that is new in the person you are with, walking down the street wrapped up in smiles and…and the bottom drops out for the briefest moment when your instinct is to grab that person’s hand.  Is this a safe area?  Can I do this here?  This isn’t the Castro after all.  Will someone see us?  Will some yell fag, again?

We know what it’s like to walk in to a business meeting and wonder if we are fitting in, in a different way than our straight counterparts worry about. We know what it’s like to be at a summer gathering or a winter pub and, even if just for a moment, ask ourselves, Am I being butch enough?  Fem enough?  How’s my body language? What did I just do with my wrist?  Does it matter?  

Some of us have chosen to care about these questions less than others.  Some of us don’t have a choice.  Some of us may not notice how much we care about these questions in the first place.  But all of us, all of us, experience this in some form.  And it never stops.

We never stop coming out.

I come out every day.  I come out to my neighbors.  I come out to my coworkers.  I come out when I decide whether or not to hold my date’s hand in public.  I come out at BBQs and Christmas parties and meetings at work.  I come out when I speak my mind.  I come out when I laugh at a certain joke or move my body in a certain way that isn’t, I suppose, part of our heteronormative world. I come out when I tell my mother I am seeing someone.  I come out when I confront a complete stranger who I hear using a homophobic slur.

I never stop coming out.  And it’s exhausting.

But, there is a place where I don’t have to think about this.  Where I don’t have to worry for my safety.  Where I don’t have to consider strange looks from my heterosexual counterparts.  There is one place where I don’t have to be overtly body-aware.  Where I don’t have to censor. Where I don’t have to consider whether it’s acceptable to hold the hand of the person I am with. There is one place where my limp-wristed, acutely queer, artistically self-absorbed, high-pitched, flaming, neo-fem self can let go and march forth with all the proud faggotry that is I.

The gay club.

For many, it’s a sanctuary.  It’s freedom.  Each time we walk through the club’s doors we can breathe.  The club is where we get a sense of nostalgia, remembering the first time we felt a new kind of acceptance that everyone but us seemed to experience. It’s where I can take my boyfriend, smile, and hold his hand without hesitation.   It’s where we can love, and be loved, and be totally insane and totally ourselves and totally queer without fear of harm.  

It’s the place my community relied on in the 70’s to escape the arrests and beatings in America’s cities, where we came together during the AIDS crisis of the 80’s to support each other while half of our friends died, where we gathered in the 90’s to talk about how oddly connected we felt to Matthew Sheppard, and where we began to celebrate the earliest signs that the gay right’s movement, our movement, was gaining steam in the 2000’s.  It’s where I, in 1999, for the first time in my life, felt the rush of simple flirtations with the object of my affection without fear. 

The gay club.

And in the early hours of June 12th, 2016 in Orlando, Florida, it was defiled. It was attacked.  It was covered with blood at the hands of an abhorrent lunatic whose actions weren’t born out of Islam or Christianity or some intangible form of terrorism.

It was born out of homophobia.

I want you to understand what this massacre means to this community, to my community.  I want you to know there are people around you, LGBT people, who are hurting in a way that is unlike your hurt.  I want you to know that while we as a country mourn the loss of these 49 people, I also mourn the loss of the only sanctuary where freedom and a sense of safety for myself felt guaranteed.

49 people went to that sanctuary Saturday night. 49 people were smiling as they picked out their best outfits and texted their friends, I’m ready.  49 people were breathing an almost unnoticeable sigh of relief as they entered those doors, that safe space, that place that allowed them to express and love and kiss and dance and, can you believe it, hold hands. 49 people heard a song that night that made them smile or dance or yell or laugh. Some were there with their partners.  Some were looking for love.  All were there to connect.  49 people were, for a brief moment, enjoying life in the way that most non-LGBT people do everyday: Without Fear.

These people were murdered.  These people died in the one place that, surely, they felt homophobic violence and hatred would not reach.

The horror that took place in Pulse is not about gun control or Islam or whether or not our political leaders are using the right words or making the right choices. It is about these 49 people and their parents and children and partners and friends.

And, secondarily in a very distant sense, it is about the entire LGBT community and how we feel knowing that marriage equality has not taken away the atmosphere of violence we have all experienced in countless ways while growing up Queer in this country.  We are reading the news not thinking about those people. We are thinking about us.  

Social media is filled right now with distracting arguments about guns and religion and what our president did or didn’t say in his press conference.  But a few, just a few, are asking the question, What can I do to help?

This is what you can do: Reach out to your queer friends in the coming days.  Ask them how they are feeling. Ask them for their thoughts. And then be quiet. Don’t be surprised if they start telling you about their childhood, or the first time they experienced fear born out of their sense of self and an external hatred towards that self.  Don’t be surprised when they share their story of the first time they went to a gay club.  Don’t be surprised if they say you can’t possibly understand.  Because you can’t.  Tell them you already know that, and you want to try anyway.

And, for the LGBT people reading this, speak up.  We know change comes when our straight counterparts learn about us and our struggles in a personal way.  Share your thoughts on this tragedy with anyone who will listen.  We feel the darkness from this tragedy in a way many do not.  We feel the horror, differently.  It is personal to us.  We can take this experience, and share.  We can learn and grow and help others do the same.  In this way we honor the victims. This is our duty as LGBT people.  It is our responsibility.    

Reach out.  Come out.  Honor the victims.

Thanks for reading,